Single For LYfe Part 2.5: Wifey Material Reiteration
After re-reading my post, I realized that I did not clarify or focus on the points I wanted to make.
I talked to several women about relationships recently. Looks as though we all are going through the same thing. The below are summaries of these honest conversations with these women.
When you are wifey material, guys can pick up on that. They see that you are a good girl, have a lot going for you, and hold yourself to high moral standards and know your own value. However, regardless of if you are necessary their type or their match, they want to hold onto or claim you as their own because they know that's who they NEED.
You have all the perfect qualities; you cook, clean, always pampered, down-to-earth, loving, nurturing, independent, hard-working, etc. all the ingredients for the perfect mate but they know you are not their mate! When you see something good, it's natural to want to grab it before someone else does. When children see something they want and another child wants the same thing, what do they do? They snatch it, hold onto it, hide it, whatever they can do to make sure that other child does not get to it. Well guys, do that to us, girls... when you are wifey material.
It's flattering and all, it may come with it's perks but if you know that guy is not who you see yourself with in the future and is not "hubby material", what's the point in entertaining it so you can get caught up or end up stuck being with him. You get comfortable and want to help him with his life and his problems because you are the fixer/problem solver and you know to be the supportive, encouraging/nurturing woman that comes naturally to you but all along knowing that this relationship isn't right.
It should be a two-way street! For once, could you have a man who holds up the door for you, pulls out your chair, rubs your feet after a long and hard day at work, does your errands for you, helps you relax, shares his problems but do not dump them onto you, all the good things you were raised and told that a man should do. When a man approaches you, he should come correct. Friendships that evolve into more which are the best relationships and that should be the focus when first meeting someone. Boundaries should be set and enforced because as soon as you let your guard down, you allow the chance for manipulation, etc. I am not saying all guys are the same and trust me when I say that there are still some good guys out there. You just have to be careful. There are a lot of people being used and hurt by these relationships or situations they get into. You have to become aware you are in a hole before it gets too deep to the point you can't climb out.
Ladies, knowing you are a good catch and wifey material, you also have to know that you are a precious gem similar to china that everyone wants to place on the shelf and dust off from time to time. Gems are meant to be kept in good condition and shown off! Those who know it's worth know how to care for it and where and how to place it.
I talked to several women about relationships recently. Looks as though we all are going through the same thing. The below are summaries of these honest conversations with these women.
"Experience is the best teacher." -Proverb
When you are wifey material, guys can pick up on that. They see that you are a good girl, have a lot going for you, and hold yourself to high moral standards and know your own value. However, regardless of if you are necessary their type or their match, they want to hold onto or claim you as their own because they know that's who they NEED.
You have all the perfect qualities; you cook, clean, always pampered, down-to-earth, loving, nurturing, independent, hard-working, etc. all the ingredients for the perfect mate but they know you are not their mate! When you see something good, it's natural to want to grab it before someone else does. When children see something they want and another child wants the same thing, what do they do? They snatch it, hold onto it, hide it, whatever they can do to make sure that other child does not get to it. Well guys, do that to us, girls... when you are wifey material.
It's flattering and all, it may come with it's perks but if you know that guy is not who you see yourself with in the future and is not "hubby material", what's the point in entertaining it so you can get caught up or end up stuck being with him. You get comfortable and want to help him with his life and his problems because you are the fixer/problem solver and you know to be the supportive, encouraging/nurturing woman that comes naturally to you but all along knowing that this relationship isn't right.
It should be a two-way street! For once, could you have a man who holds up the door for you, pulls out your chair, rubs your feet after a long and hard day at work, does your errands for you, helps you relax, shares his problems but do not dump them onto you, all the good things you were raised and told that a man should do. When a man approaches you, he should come correct. Friendships that evolve into more which are the best relationships and that should be the focus when first meeting someone. Boundaries should be set and enforced because as soon as you let your guard down, you allow the chance for manipulation, etc. I am not saying all guys are the same and trust me when I say that there are still some good guys out there. You just have to be careful. There are a lot of people being used and hurt by these relationships or situations they get into. You have to become aware you are in a hole before it gets too deep to the point you can't climb out.
Ladies, knowing you are a good catch and wifey material, you also have to know that you are a precious gem similar to china that everyone wants to place on the shelf and dust off from time to time. Gems are meant to be kept in good condition and shown off! Those who know it's worth know how to care for it and where and how to place it.
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